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Why Do They Have To Grow Up?

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Hope on her way into the rink for her last home game.

Today is another one of those bittersweet days that as parents you kind of hope doesn’t happen. But as time passes they do. They happen and we wish they wouldn’t. For the better part of 17 1/2 years, our children have played either roller or ice hockey. Both involved a commitment of multiple nights per week, weekends and lots of traveling.

Today marked my daughters last home game playing ice hockey. Like her brother, she began by playing roller hockey and moved on to play on the ice. First, she played with boys and for the last few years, she has played on a girls team. We have now played on the rink at Trinity Pawling for nine years.

Watching her play and grow has been an amazing experience. She has developed into a level headed, smart and well rounded young woman. I couldn’t be more proud and could not have asked for more.

With both of my kids, I spent countless hours behind the wheel going to practice, coming home, going to games and tournaments and returning home. Day in and day out.

My colleagues at work know my story and they have listened to me bemoan my situation. Traveling to all corners of New York, to Connecticut, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Vermont, and Massachusetts. Last year we thought it was the end based on the fact that we didn’t think we had enough girls to play. But then we did.

But now it really is over. My daughter is a senior and will be attending college next year. There will be no more long talks in the car. No more stories of what she had done in school that day or what she was planning to do with her boyfriend that weekend (who by the way is an outstanding young man). No more stories of her plans for the future and what she wants to study in college.

Folks have been telling me for the last couple of years that despite the driving and the long hours that I would miss it when it was over. I would always stoically reply that I wouldn’t miss it at all.

Life, however, has a funny way of sneaking up on you. After our last home game today we have two games next weekend in Saratoga Springs and then it will be the end.

The thing that I think I will miss most is looking to my right as she talked and seeing her eyes, bright with enthusiasm as she chattered on about her hopes and dreams and me, sitting in the driver’s seat thinking that last day was always a lifetime away and I would have these special moments forever.

But that time is now here. It really is over. Soon she will be in college and I won’t have to drive to any hockey practices, games or tournaments. Even as I write this I have an empty feeling inside knowing that both of my children are now grown up. My wife and I have done our jobs and we can only hope for the best.

But to be totally honest, I already miss the smile and the look when she turned to me and would say, “You aren’t going to believe what happened today.”

 

No Cell, No Problem

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Today I left my cell phone at home. And much to my surprise, I didn’t even miss it. Not for a minute. I thought for sure that I would think about it all day long, that I would pine away until the time came when I would have my phone again in my sweaty hands. But no, none of that happened. I didn’t break out in a sweat, the sky didn’t fall and the world didn’t end.

When I told my students what I had done, they were more panicked than I was. There I was, sitting at my desk, pondering what I was planning on doing that day and the questions came at me rapid fire. “What are you going to do?” “What if you miss a text or a phone call?” “How will people know where you are and what you are doing?” As deftly as I could, I dodged each of the questions as if my non-existent street cred might be ruined.

How could I leave my house and come to work without my cell and survive? It’s a question I knew I had to find the answer to. But then I started to realize how absurd this all was. Why should I be worried that I left my celly at home? I have a landline in my office that anyone who needs to can get in touch with me if they need to. So why?

Can we all agree that we are all way too dependent on these and other electronic devices? Why do we need a cell phone with us 24/7? I know I may be showing my age here, but back in the day when I was a teenager, we all seemed to be able to get in touch with everyone we needed to when we needed to. It was as simple as finding a pay phone.

But today was liberating. I felt free. I wasn’t looking at my cell every two seconds for texts, missed calls and news feeds. I didn’t even worry that I might be missing something. What is that called? FOMO? Fear of missing out? The entire day seemed as if I was floating on a cloud and didn’t have a care in the world. And I didn’t even care who knew it.

But what will happen tomorrow? Will I forget it at home again? Will I choose to leave it at home? I don’t have an answer for you. Anything could happen.

 

 

 

The Sawyer Squeeze-Part 2

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Paranoidunreasonably or obsessively anxious, suspicious, or mistrustful. 

These are the very words that describe my current condition as it relates to hiking. Why should I be paranoid? What do I have to be anxious about when I am in my comfort zone? According to the definition, is there truly a need to be suspicious or mistrustful of the one activity that brings me to my absolute happy place.

Earlier in the year and prior to my fall, I wrote a review on the water treatment system that I would bring with me on my backpacking trip to ensure that the water I collected would be safe to drink. Overall, it worked well and the water that was filtered was delicious.

Just in terms of a little background, prior to the end of June and on day hikes, I would carry two 48 ounce Nalgene water bottles. For most day hikes this would be a sufficient amount of water for most hikes. Longer hikes and days that are more hot and humid of course require more water. Unfortunately, in the past, there have been situations where I have run out of water.

At this point, however, I have decided that I am going to carry the Sawyer Squeeze with me even on day hikes.

This raises many questions. The biggest one being the availability of water while I am hiking. Obviously some times of the year have more water flowing in streams or in ponds than others. Most of the areas that I hike in and around have lakes, which makes the situation that much more easy.

Beyond that, I think that carrying the Sawyer Squeeze will bring me a peace of mind that I think I need as I work on getting permanently back on the trail.

Am I crazy? I don’t think so. I think that I have earned the right to be just a little paranoid.

HAPPY HIKING!!!

Oh My…She Stepped In It Again!!!

 

Once again, Hillary seems to have stepped in her own fecal matter. In an interview yesterday with CNN’s Christiane Amanpour, she stated the following:

“You cannot be civil with a political party that wants to destroy what you stand for, what you care about.” She goes on to say that, “That’s why I believe, if we are fortunate enough to win back the House and/or the Senate, that’s when civility can start again. But until then, the only thing that the Republicans seem to recognize and respect is strength.”

Huh??? What??? Did I read that right? We’ll be nice if we get the House or the Senate back? What kind of backwards psychotic drivel is that? Even if you believe that, why oh why in the world would you say it out loud? And please, show me a time in the last 9 1/2 years when you have been civil!

Of course this falls right into line with the most recent filth being spewed by Maxine Waters about Republicans that may just happen to be out in public:

“Let’s make sure we show up wherever we have to show up. And if you see anybody from that Cabinet in a restaurant, in a department store, at a gasoline station, you get out and you create a crowd. And you push back on them. And you tell them they’re not welcome anymore, anywhere.”

Of course this nonsense is perfectly acceptable because it is directed at the right. Imagine for a moment that a Republican, any Republican said either of these things. Oh my…the hysterics and  feigned indignation would be the lead story for days. Newscasters would be falling over each other in shock and disbelief that anyone could even think about saying something like that. Oh the horror!!!!

But yet here we are again. Doesn’t Hillary realize that she is last years news? That she is irrelevant? The fact that the word civility even oozed out of her mouth shows you how out of touch and delusional she is.

And what about our friend Maxine? Her call for the left to harass law makers on the right was stupifying to say the least. But the one good thing about Waters is that she doesn’t even make the attempt to hide her special kind of crazy. She lets her freak flag fly!

I am sure that folks on the left that are farther on the fringe than these two will take these words to heart and continue to act in the same irresponsible and childish manner.

 

Behold Sabo: “The Right Wing Banksy”

 

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Hey Folks! I came across and artist today who you might find interesting. He comes from the same mindset as Banksy and other street artists that are trying to spread a message. Unlike all of the others, Sabo (pronounced SAY-bo) is firmly committed to the right. As a matter of fact, he has become known as the “Right Wing Banksy.” After leaving the Marine Corps, he has spent his life lampooning the left.

Here is a quick taste of his art.

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Very nice!

 

 

Why Now?? I’ll Tell You Why

 

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A woman that I have known for quite a few years asked me on Facebook yesterday why I have become so political recently. Before I get into how I responded to her, let me just say that I have been reasonably political my entire life. As someone who leans more to the right, I learned during the eight years of Obama’s presidency not to say much. Why you might ask?

What exactly did we learn during Obama’s presidency?

We learned that although the left says that they are proponents of free speech, nothing could be further from the truth. No matter how logical, well thought out and factually correct an argument is, the quickest way to combat it is to immediately call that person a racist, sexist, homophobe, misogynist and islamophobe. This way they never have to counter that well thought out argument with facts.

We also learned that the idea that democrats are the “tolerant” party is a myth. I have never seen a group that was more intolerant  of other people’s views in my entire life. Just try to disagree with someone on the left and you’ll see what I mean.

We learned that by combining the previous two paragraphs you have the modern day American left.

So why then have I just now started being more vocal? Here’s why. When Trump became the party’s candidate for President, it seemed like the previous eight years had never ended. As I said to my friend, if you disagreed with Obama and his policies, you were a racist. It wasn’t possible to actually just be able to disagree with them, you just hated minorities. Now Trump comes along and if you support him, you are a racist.

What??? Wait a second. I was a racist because I didn’t like Obama and now I’m a racist because I support Trump? Hmmm…You sensing a predictable sickening pattern here?

Add to this the inability of the left to accept the fact that he is our President, and you have a recipe for disaster. The childish and often times absolutely crazy behavior displayed by the left since the election is legendary. The screaming at the sky, harassing politicians and private citizens for supporting a politician is insane.

So from now on I refuse to sit by and let the left get away with what they believe is their right. The days of bullying, harassing and violence are over. I will not sit idly by and accept the usual tactics from the left. It’s about time the right in this country respond and counter the lies and hypocrisy that the left has been spewing for way too many years.

When did it become a crime in this country to hold an opposing view? When did it become a crime in this country to think that it was ok to call people names because they don’t agree with you?

Since Kavanaugh was nominated the left has become more unhinged than right after the election. They over played their hand this time and it could come back to haunt them.

And that’s why I will not remain silent anymore.

As always, if you are offended by this or don’t like what I have written, I don’t care.

All Aboard!!! The Hypocrisy Train Is Pulling Out Of The Station!

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I have just been reading tweets from people who aren’t that thrilled that Senator Collins is going to vote yes for Kavanaugh. Summing it up, most of them are saying that survivors will never be believed and that Collins has betrayed all women. It goes on and on and on.

Ok. So where were all of these woman when Juanita Broderick was accusing Bill Clinton of rape and was ignored by the left?  What was Hillary doing to each of the women who accused Bill of indiscretions? (I’m being kind by saying “indiscretions”) She was shaming them and trying to discredit them.

How soon they forget. How quickly they jump on the hypocrisy train. You folks on the left really have to get your priorities straight. The fact that you have ignored Hillary and her sickening treatment of woman for over 25 years just makes this little charade against Kavanaugh just that, a charade.

Who has truly betrayed women? It’s you, not Senator Collins. Your hypocrisy is beyond mind boggling and it is you who should be ashamed of what is happening.

So before you continue saying that anyone who votes for Kavanaugh will never see a moment of peace, take a good long look at yourselves in the mirror. You can’t have it both ways. Survivors just don’t exist on the left side of the aisle. The next stop on the hypocrisy train might be one you don’t like.